They say that it’s in the first five years in your life that you learn the most. You learn to depend on your parents for your every need. You learn to breathe and to eat and to walk and to talk. You learn the alphabet and your numbers and your colors. More importantly you learn security. You learn whether or not your basic needs will be met and by who. Ultimately the things you are taught and the way you are treated during these first years will greatly affect who you will become and how you will treat yourself and others for the rest of your life.
I would argue that likewise the first five years of your marriage are just as important to the rest of your marriage as the first five years of life are to your future. It’s in these first years that you learn to loose yourself and to be dependent on each other. You learn the other ways that things can be done, even if it’s not the way you would have choose to do them. You learn that your needs are still important but that they are worth sacrificing to meet the needs of the one you love the most.
You learn to talk so that your spouse can understand you and to listen without judging or being critical. You learn that they think differently than you and that they may have different opinions then you do but they are still valid. You learn to defend them and stick up for them when others think they are wrong or out of their mind. You learn to live to make them happy and by doing so you become happy yourself.
You learn that the promises you made to each other aren’t to be broken and that forgiving each other is essential. You learn that you are stronger together than you are alone and that you have been commanded to be each others helpmate and to cleave to one another. You learn that others won’t always support you and that you have to be truly committed to overcoming your hardships. You learn that the reasons you love each other the most is because you know each other the most and you accept the good with the bad.
You learn to say “I love you” as many times as you can and to say “sorry” more and to hold grudges less. You learn that although you may be tired someone is working hard to make your life easier and to provide you with all the things you need.
You learn that you really are amazing and beautiful to that one person in the world who can get turned on giving you a morning kiss and that stretch marks can actually be sexy. Who would have thought?
That’s briefly some of what I have learned. Thanks to you, my one true love and my everything. I love you and can’t wait to spend the next forever by your side!
I would argue that likewise the first five years of your marriage are just as important to the rest of your marriage as the first five years of life are to your future. It’s in these first years that you learn to loose yourself and to be dependent on each other. You learn the other ways that things can be done, even if it’s not the way you would have choose to do them. You learn that your needs are still important but that they are worth sacrificing to meet the needs of the one you love the most.
You learn to talk so that your spouse can understand you and to listen without judging or being critical. You learn that they think differently than you and that they may have different opinions then you do but they are still valid. You learn to defend them and stick up for them when others think they are wrong or out of their mind. You learn to live to make them happy and by doing so you become happy yourself.
You learn that the promises you made to each other aren’t to be broken and that forgiving each other is essential. You learn that you are stronger together than you are alone and that you have been commanded to be each others helpmate and to cleave to one another. You learn that others won’t always support you and that you have to be truly committed to overcoming your hardships. You learn that the reasons you love each other the most is because you know each other the most and you accept the good with the bad.
You learn to say “I love you” as many times as you can and to say “sorry” more and to hold grudges less. You learn that although you may be tired someone is working hard to make your life easier and to provide you with all the things you need.
You learn that you really are amazing and beautiful to that one person in the world who can get turned on giving you a morning kiss and that stretch marks can actually be sexy. Who would have thought?
That’s briefly some of what I have learned. Thanks to you, my one true love and my everything. I love you and can’t wait to spend the next forever by your side!
5 comments:
That was beautiful, it made me cry. (doesn't take much I know) Thank you for reminding me of all of those things. I know I can learn so much from you and your great husband. You must have done this post while brax was at grandmas cause I know you don't have the time to write that much with his happy little spirit around:)
Happy 5th anniversary! I hope you guys do something fun! That was cute what you did- so true!
Andrea that is so sweet! I'm not even kidding when I say that I am sitting in my office crying now haha. Zach and I have our 5 year anniversary coming up this year too, and everything you said was right on! I absolutely love it! Happy anniversary!
Happy Anniversary!! That was so beautifully put, I hope you were able to get out and do something fun together!
April
Great picture and beautiful post! I miss you!
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